The Power of a Compliment

by Michelle on February 21, 2014

When someone offers you an unsolicited compliment, how does it make you feel?  Possibly elated, happy, relieved, excited, or even motivated to keep doing whatever it is you are doing that got you that compliment.  In short, it makes you feel GOOD.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s the shoes you chose to wear, the way you do your job, someone noticed your hair cut or hair color change, or they noticed that you’ve been putting in extra time at the gym.  Or maybe someone just noticed you. Period.  Any time someone says something unexpectedly nice about you TO you, it impacts your mood in a big way.

Compliments are the least expensive way to pay it forward.  This week, I received a few compliments.  They were out of the blue and were in regards to areas of my life I was feeling very doubtful, self-conscious, and wondering if I was doing any good at any of them.  Yet these compliments made me realize how hard I am on myself.  After I thanked them (one mentally, one verbally), I reflected.  I realized how far I had come in both of those particular areas and I took a moment to celebrate myself instead of berate myself.  It was time to give myself a little grace.

And you know what?  Those compliments made me feel so good that I wanted to do something nice for someone else (so I did).  The recipient was so appreciative, which also made me feel really good.  Because of something as simple as a compliment, the happiness and the good feelings were multiplied.  I passed them along, and I can’t help but believe that they continued to pass along from there.  All because someone had the forward thinking (or natural ability, or made the effort), to simply pay me a compliment.

One simple thing can effect another.  A compilation of simple things adds up to a big thing.  If you are going to spread anything, shouldn’t it be good and happiness?  It can all start by complimenting someone you love or admire.  Remember, we only show the world what we want them to see.  Sometimes we show a glimpse of something deeper unintentionally.  But we are all fighting battles, and something as simple as a little compliment can change someone’s mood and day in a big way.

You don’t have to receive to give.  Be the catalyst.  Start today. 

“It is a great mistake for men to give up paying compliments, for when they give up saying what is charming, they give up thinking what is charming.” ~ Oscar Wilde

Not sure quite how to pay a compliment?  Speaking nice words to others can be easy for some and awkward for others.  Check out my post on “How to Pay a Compliment“, which is breaks it down in a fun & easy way for us quirky ones who over-analyze the simplicity of complimenting another.  Remember, when you give, you often receive in return.

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